Words are heard forever

Jas 3:3 Behold, we put bits in the horses' mouths, that they may obey us; and we turn about their whole body.
Jas 3:4 Behold also the ships, which though they be so great, and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with a very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth.
Jas 3:5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!

You cannot take back a single word you've spoken that others have been there to hear. Unlike a delete button on our computers that enable us to review things we've written and change them- when we speak in another's presence and they hear the words we say, those words have been heard forever.

I don't think there is a person who is old enough to speak and comprehend what they are saying- able to respond to others and reply in kind- that hasn't regretted words they've spoken. Ask around if you think there are those who haven't ever spoken a word they wish they could take back and not say. You might get some pretty cocky people who will readily say they've never regretted a thing, that regrets are for the foolish, but those people will be liars. Seriously, they'll be lying. Bridling our tongues and keeping them from speaking hurtful things is part of the flesh nature we possess, unfortunately, and people's lives have been altered in ways they don't want because of words spoken.

In yesterday's study we talked about the perfect person being one who does not offend in word, a person who has tamed their tongue is able to tame all their imperfections. Why is that do you think? Because the tongue though it is tiny compared to the majority of our body's members, is powerful. AND the tongue is a reflection of our minds. If we have control over our tongues we have control over our minds.

Satan delights in taking control of us in any way He can. Too many people believe they live outside of the influence of Satan, they'd rather put their own ornery, hurtful, deceptive ways down to themselves than to admit that Satan can influence them. People want to live outside the war, and most do that in their minds- believing the war doesn't even exist. So when we find ourselves caught up in a battle of the verbal kind and are slinging one hurtful barb after another and part of us thinks it's awful what we're doing, yet we keep on throwing hateful words around hoping they'll hit their target wounding the one they're aimed at- all to what end? Any victory achieved through such means is a vile victory stained so thoroughly by the blood of the unseen kind that it ends up being worthless. All too often we'll find ourselves holding that hollow victory and realize just how meaningless it is. We are filled with regret and wish we could go back and unsay what we said and get a do-over so we can do things differently. And yet, no matter how many times we hold hollow victories in our hands it would seem that we can't stop collecting them. Maybe we're hoping for a solid victory and yet we won't find that in a battle of hateful, hurtful words. Because even if you are in the absolute right of things and the other person ends up admitting it, the cost of the battle, the wounds that have been inflicted are open and bleeding for you to see and anyone that can take glory in seeing the wounds is an especially callous, heartless person.

Jas 3:5 Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth!

Is it any wonder we are told this--

Jas 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath

SLOW TO SPEAK.

How many of the verbal battles we engage in at Satan's urging would have been thwarted if we'd known to be SLOW TO SPEAK? How many of those awful word exchanges could have never been if we'd only listened to the word of God and tamed our tongue at least slowing it down. Too many angry exchanges are made in the HEAT of the argument, in the HEAT of the moment and that heat was set ablaze by our thoughtless words. Truly, thoughtless words. Words we've taken absolutely NO time to speak of, to think about, but rather blurted them out the very microsecond after they were thought. Do you think it's possible to speak without having any thought at all? No. The words must come into our minds through thinking them and we've perfected the art of thinking and speak instantaneously rather than thinking those words and taking time to consider whether or not they are the right thing to say. We think therefore we speak is how we live. Yet we should be thinking and therefore we contemplate our thoughts before putting them into words that we can never, ever, take back, words that are forever spoken, words that can never be erased by a million apologies. A person can forgive a thoughtless word spoken, but they can't forget it. Time will ease the memory of an angry thoughtless exchange but never do away with it.

Oh to be able to learn this great lesson- be slow to speak.

All by the grace of God we will learn, all by the grace of God we will put on the full armor of God and stay protected in this wicked evil world we live in.

In His amazing love!

Amen.